This blog is devoted to sharing educational articles, videos and materials surrounding issues involved with REACTIVE ATTACHMENT DISORDER.
In seeking to understand my own experience rearing a child who carried deep emotional trauma, I searched the world for answers to what seemed to me to be an excruciatingly painful and confusing problem.
As a woman and mother who loves children and the heart behind adoption, I was surprised to experienced much pain while walking along side a child who had been severely wounded early in life.
Long after that child was grown and living successfully on her own, I took a deep breath, began to face my own sorrows and anger (etc) relating to the years of following my intuition and looking for principles to cope with what felt like an absolutely awful situation. I found the strength to look for understanding and insight into what had happened during those years of living life together.
I decided to share here where my journey for knowledge and truth led me in order to heal my own heart and mind from the pains involved with loving a child with severe attachment problems.
This blog contains articles, links to books and video interviews with people I found during that intensive learning period.
One fascinating thing I learned was that during the time frame I was raising the child who'd suffered severe physical and emotional traumas, brain science and how the attachment center in the brain works was JUST being done. The books I would have gleaned much from had not yet been written.
At some point, I hope to share my own stories. For now, I leave this blog as a way of a trail you can follow in case you are rearing someone who was traumatized by someone other than you.
Being left to pick up the pieces can be daunting, and if there is an attachment disorder like RAD, the inevitable processes of loosing family and social base, having financial hard ships, doubting self and having awful marital struggles (all consequences of rearing RAD) are all part of the unfortunate package.
I hope by sharing here, we might understand what is at the root of RAD, educate ourselves and each other and be able to walk out in confidence loving a child who reacts to being loved.
By clicking through to articles and watching videos you can learn how RAD affects children, the families who adopt them as well as the women who step in to nurture a child who has been hurt by someone else.
If you are an adult dealing with RAD within yourself (often diagnosed as BPD), a family member who would like to support someone who is rearing RAD, or a family looking to adopt/become step-parent to a child who was severely traumatized there is a lot of information here to glean from.
The more I learn I realize I have had a life long experience with attachment issues. I hope you find practical things to help you on your journey.
It's my belief that love alone is not enough...or at least "love" toward one of these precious children needs to be looked at from a completely different grid than what seems natural.
Suggested Materials include affiliate links to resources you can purchase online. Should you purchase materials through the links provided here, I might receive a small commission at no extra charge to you.
The links to written articles by various authors are in no certain order.
The videos are in no certain order.
If any of the information provided has been useful to you, please kindly consider a generous donation.
Please use the button below to donate by debit or bank card or to pay by PayPal.
Donations are not tax deductible. Refunds not available.
In seeking to understand my own experience rearing a child who carried deep emotional trauma, I searched the world for answers to what seemed to me to be an excruciatingly painful and confusing problem.
As a woman and mother who loves children and the heart behind adoption, I was surprised to experienced much pain while walking along side a child who had been severely wounded early in life.
Long after that child was grown and living successfully on her own, I took a deep breath, began to face my own sorrows and anger (etc) relating to the years of following my intuition and looking for principles to cope with what felt like an absolutely awful situation. I found the strength to look for understanding and insight into what had happened during those years of living life together.
I decided to share here where my journey for knowledge and truth led me in order to heal my own heart and mind from the pains involved with loving a child with severe attachment problems.
This blog contains articles, links to books and video interviews with people I found during that intensive learning period.
One fascinating thing I learned was that during the time frame I was raising the child who'd suffered severe physical and emotional traumas, brain science and how the attachment center in the brain works was JUST being done. The books I would have gleaned much from had not yet been written.
At some point, I hope to share my own stories. For now, I leave this blog as a way of a trail you can follow in case you are rearing someone who was traumatized by someone other than you.
Being left to pick up the pieces can be daunting, and if there is an attachment disorder like RAD, the inevitable processes of loosing family and social base, having financial hard ships, doubting self and having awful marital struggles (all consequences of rearing RAD) are all part of the unfortunate package.
I hope by sharing here, we might understand what is at the root of RAD, educate ourselves and each other and be able to walk out in confidence loving a child who reacts to being loved.
By clicking through to articles and watching videos you can learn how RAD affects children, the families who adopt them as well as the women who step in to nurture a child who has been hurt by someone else.
If you are an adult dealing with RAD within yourself (often diagnosed as BPD), a family member who would like to support someone who is rearing RAD, or a family looking to adopt/become step-parent to a child who was severely traumatized there is a lot of information here to glean from.
The more I learn I realize I have had a life long experience with attachment issues. I hope you find practical things to help you on your journey.
It's my belief that love alone is not enough...or at least "love" toward one of these precious children needs to be looked at from a completely different grid than what seems natural.
Suggested Materials include affiliate links to resources you can purchase online. Should you purchase materials through the links provided here, I might receive a small commission at no extra charge to you.
The links to written articles by various authors are in no certain order.
The videos are in no certain order.
If any of the information provided has been useful to you, please kindly consider a generous donation.
Please use the button below to donate by debit or bank card or to pay by PayPal.
Donations are not tax deductible. Refunds not available.